Tantric methods


This a practical guide to the tantric methods. Tantra has a lot of useful techniques for deeper and better lovemaking. Beliefs or rituals are not necessary in tantric practice. Tantra is the inner experience. All these methods can be freely used in your own way, for your own purposes.

Ordinary sex aims always to the orgasm, to the release of energy. It will bring you a moment of enjoyment and feeling of release. Tension is released, and desire is satisfied for a moment. On other hand, you are also tired and you have lost your vitality and interest to lovemaking for a while. Tantra approaches lovemaking totally different way.

Tantric practice means making love for a much longer and deeper. You will immerse yourself into this moment, into the loving embrace, and forget the end. Tantric lovemaking can last hours. We can experience ecstasy of loving as long as we like. Tantric lovemaking will take you ever deeper into love, into the union with other person. Tantra will create connection between hearts and souls.

Tantric lovemaking will keep your energy yourself, and make it circulate between lovers. When lovemaking goes on long enough, and when deep connection is created, then the nature of lovemaking changes. When tension grows strong enough, energy will start to flow between you in a circle. This flow will grow stronger, and when it grows enough, it will change the direction completely. Your energies will move upwards, and you will move with it, and join into the cosmos. Then your lovemaking will become the pure bliss of life. You will melt together with your partner. You will experience true oneness, the deepest experience of love.


Multiple male orgasms
Creating connection
Circle of energy
Tantric massage
Practical advices


Multiple male orgasms

Experience multiple orgasms

The first method is about ejaculation of men. Tantric lovemaking is meant to last long, because finding deeper connection will take time. Women can get multiple orgasms, and easily continue making love. But when man ejaculates, his desire, as well as lovemaking, will usually end.

Solution for this is found in multiple male orgasms. Men can also get many orgasms, and still continue lovemaking. This is useful skill, and it will make normal sexual life better for both partners. It's a skill that can be learned by practice.

Experience of the orgasm and ejaculation are two separate things. Other one can exist without the other. Men can experience orgasm without ejaculation. This is the base for this technique. You can learn the art of separating these two, and gain ability to experience orgasm without ejaculation. Men are able to experience many orgasms like these without losing their desire.

Learn your limits

The first practice is to learn to recognize the moment of orgasm. Recognize that exact moment when your excitement is going over the limit and the orgasm is coming. You can use masturbation for this. Take yourself to your limit. Be prepared, and learn to recognize that moment when you cannot continue the stimulation without going over your limit. Take yourself to your limit several times, always stopping stimulation for a while, and letting yourself recover. Know and be aware of your limit after which ejaculation happens.

Find your muscles

The second practice is to learn to recognize those muscles that control ejaculation. When you next time go into the toilet, attempt to stop urinating in the middle of it. Become aware of those muscles that allow you to do this. Feel those muscles when you ejaculate next time. These muscles throb at the moment of orgasm, and send semen on its way.

Learn to recognize those muscles, and practice until you can control them consciously whenever you want to. When you can consciously use those muscles, you can learn to control your orgasm with them.

Use right timing and muscle control

The third practice is to learn to control those muscles at exactly right moment. Your object is to experience the orgasm, but with help of these muscles prevent ejaculation. Take yourself to your limit, and allow yourself go over it. Stop stimulation, and feel when those muscles are starting to pulse and throb. You can now approach this in two different ways. You can relax these muscles completely, and so the ejaculation never happens.

Or you can contract these muscles to opposite direction, as you would be trying to pull the ejaculation back into you. Do it at the same rhythm, and the movement of these muscles are prevented. When you time it to the exact moment, you can prevent semen from leaving, and stop your ejaculation completely. You will still get your orgasm, but you will avoid the ejaculation. Experiment with both of these ways, and find the one that fits you best. You can use either one, experience your orgasm multiple times, and you can keep making love.


Notice that men still need to ejaculate now and then. It will release tension in the prostate. You can help this by massaging your stomach about the palm length down from your navel.



Creating unity

Create deeper union

You can consciously create unity with another person. You can build a bridge between hearts. You can find deeper union together.  You can make your hearts beat in the same rhythm, your breath become as one, and your bodies will move at the same pace. You can find union of body, heart and soul, and your entire being.

This practice is done best by sitting on each other’s laps. The other partner will sit comfortable on something supporting and the other one sits on their lap, so that your eyes will meet. Find position that is comfortable for you, and where you can stay for longer time. The bath might be also a good place, because water will support you from the all sides.

Connecting eyes

Your eyes are mirrors of your souls. When you look deeply into your lover's eyes, you look directly into their souls. Look into your partner's eyes gently and lovingly. It can be easier to concentrate just on the other eye, on the left one. Relax, and keep watching lovingly into the each others' eyes. This is the union of souls.

Connecting hearts

Put your left hand to the middle of your lover’s chest. This is the center of heart. The other one will set hand on your heart center, and both of you will put your right hand over your lover's left hand. This way you have now connected your hearts together through your hands. Feel the heartbeat of each other. This is the union of hearts.

Connecting breathing

Breathe at the same rhythm. Set your breathing to the same pace. The one who breathes slower will set their breathing to the same rhythm as the faster one. Find your rhythm together. Breathing is the living rhythm of bodies. When you find the same pace of breathing, then your bodies also will move at the same pace. This is the union of bodies.


Creating unity will take some time. Relax in each others' laps. Open your hearts, and trust each other. Give and receive your love and your hearts. Let the true union be born between you.



Circle of energy

Circulate energy between you

Energy will always flow. Energy itself is a movement, a flow. When you make love, you gather the energy of desire, the sexual energy, the basic energy of life. It will grow and grow, until it reaches a peak, and at that moment, all the energy will burst out all at once. That release of energy is an orgasm, and it will give you momentarily a pleasant experience.

However, that feeling will last only a moment. It will disappear almost immediately, leaving you empty and tired. You have lost your energy, and gained only a very small moment of pleasure for it. Tantra will make the enjoyment of lovemaking last much longer. You can experience true bliss during your whole lovemaking. You can make love as long as you like to, and when your lovemaking finally ends, you will notice that you have only increased your energy. Tantric lovemaking will renew and grow your energy.

This happens because of the circulation of energy. All this energy will not be released in tantric lovemaking. It will be held in the lovemaking, within you, until it begins to circulate between lovers. Energy will flow from one partner to another, and grow only stronger from it. After tantric lovemaking you will feel energized and revitalized. Your vitality, your sexual energy, has grown and refreshed.

Lovemaking will wake up your energies. Sexual energy will begin to flow in your bodies. It will create tension, and this tension will grow as long as lovemaking will last. You can feel this tension as a need to release it. Normal orgasm is just release of this energy all at once. Feel your energy, your whole inner flow, and focus it into another person.

Direct this charge of energy into your partner as the current of electricity. Let it flow through your hands and your touch, and your genitals. All parts of your body that touch the other body will give this energy of life. Be active, be the source of energy. Your attention will direct this energy, your presence in your every touch will connect it into your lover. Focus this flow of energy, and give it all to your partner. Let it all flow out of you, and into the receiver.

When your energy will reach its peak, and you feel the release approaching, it will be the time to shift directions. Now you are the receiver, and you accept the energy from your partner. Now your partner is active, and will give you energy and power. Feel all this living energy flowing into you. Be receiver, surrender to the control of your companion, and let all of it flow into you. Open yourself to it, and let all of it within you.

This way energy will start to circulate in you. Energy will always attempt to move and flow, and if it does not find release by ordinary means, it will find a new channel. It will flow from body to body, and grow in power and strength. It will begin to flow up towards the universe. It will shine between you like the bridge of light, and it will lift you up to incredible heights. It is the bridge that connects you together, and makes you as one. Together you will rise into the heights of ecstasy, and you will stay there as long as you want to.



Tantric massage

Heal with loving touch.

Tantric massage is healing massage. Human sexuality is sensitive, and it can become wounded in many ways. You will then lose your connection to your bodies and feelings. Tantric massage can heal all traumas and wounds of past. Deeper connection needs sensitivity and trust towards your partner. This massage will help you to gain both.

You can mend your bodies and sexuality with it. You can find again your innocence and trust towards other people. You can find together with your partner closer and more loving relationship. You can learn to touch gently and carefully, and how to relax and accept touch of your partner.

Make safe place for this practice, and set dim lighting to the room. The receiver will rest on bed in comfortable position, and supported by billows. The giver will take position between receiver’s legs. Find the position that will be comfortable for both, one that makes relaxation possible.

The giver will massage your partner gently and lovingly. Touch the skin caressing lightly and loving. Pour all of your love into your hands, and let it flow though your fingers into your partner. Caress your partner’s body until it is relaxed, and they are ready to receive your love. Move to their genitals, and touch them lightly and gently. Caress every part of them with the loving touch. Your touch is love, your caress is love.

Loving touch can heal wounds of heart. Loving caress from another person can heal and mend your traumas. Be aware of your hands, and feel the skin under your fingers. Caress gently and lovingly. Move slowly and calmly, and touch like you have all the time in the word. Be gentle and touch them sensitively. Your hands have become healing hands.

The receiver will relax and accept all this love. Be aware of the loving touch. Let yourself feel and experience everything that flows into of your heart. Let your emotions flow freely, and experience them when they appear. Accept your all feeling as they are. Let yourself become exited, and enjoy their touch. Feel loving touch on your skin. Let it heal and mend you. Accept love into your heart, and let everything go. Surrender to love, and you are free.

The object of this massage is not an orgasm, but healing. When the receiver will come closer to the orgasm and starts to become tense, the giver can rest their hands on the skin, and wait until the receiver is relaxed again. This practice will also help you learn to relax when you are caressed and loved. You will learn to enjoy excitement and touching alone, without the need for the release.



Practical advices

Tantra needs both time and place for it. You need to arrange time for it, and the place where you will not be disturbed. If you have a family, then hotel room for a day or two might be a good solution.

The room can be decorated with the candles, flowers and scents. You can prepare beautiful and wordless music for the background. Surround yourself with beauty. Tantra is celebration of all senses. Beauty will prepare you for the right mood. The bath full of perfumed oils and surrounded by candles creates romantic and loving atmosphere.

Eat together light fruit meal, which will give you energy. Clean yourself before lovemaking, and wash away all your worries. Massage oils and lotions can help during long lovemaking. Tantra can be practiced even for whole day.

Make love while being totally present in every moment and every touch. Do it lovingly and sensitively. Sit in each others laps, looking into the eyes, breathing same rhythm. Move your bodies at same pace. Deep connection will be born if you wish for it. And when your union is deep and lovemaking lasts long enough, you can experience the true bliss of Tantra.



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